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I’ll now hand over to Cieran who’s going to let you know his cool insights into blindspots. Blindspots are something which I had issues with when first watching infield videos of myself. It was awkward to watch myself but an amazing way to see where I could improve (those 1% tweeks) and then to correct them.
Anyway, over to you Cieran!
Blindspots. What they are and how to find them.
A blindspot is a part of your personality, something you do, a habit that you are not aware of.
Blindspots are counterproductive.
They are difficult for one to find, as one is unable to identify it.
Finding a blindspot is not easy.
This does not mean you should be constantly observing yourself in social interactions as you will only become self-consciousness which will do more harm than good. Too much awareness will leave you stifled & outcome dependent. People will pickup on this and see that you are placing too much value on the the interaction.
This is the opposite of how an easygoing guy behaves. A natural trusts and believes in himself & takes action. There will be times where he takes a risk and messes up. But a natural will learn from his mistakes. He will walk away from a social interaction a slightly bit more socially intelligent then he was walking in.
Remember the cool kids at school who were laying the hot girls in the school year? While most guys went home to play the latest metal gear solid game, the cool kids were out on the weekend talking to girls and having sex with them in the cinema toilets. They may not always have been successful. More often or not they weren’t but there persistence led them to get laid. They would learn things from trying.
The key to finding your blindspots is to first go out there and approach. When someone says “Thats fucked up what you did!”. Take note of it. But beware, they may be in the wrong. Dont take their word for it. It may be perfectly reasonable what you did.
However there will be times when you are in the wrong. In my experience I have seen some people, as well as myself be delusional. A person may screw up but wont take responsibility as they genuinely believe they’re right. This is a defence mechanism. There are times when a person IS right and others will make them believe that they themselves are wrong!
This is why naturals are so successful as they understand when they & others have done something socially acceptable or unacceptable.
A guy with a weak reality will crumble when told he is wrong leaving himself open to being used and manipulated.
Yet a delusional guy is the opposite. They have a strong reality which doesn’t fit and is socially unacceptable. He will be strong when told he is wrong, but will annoy a lot of people for being blind to whats in front of him. This makes it difficult for others to be around him.
A natural will always win. They get it. They understand how it works. The time they spent going out as a young kid is what makes them so good with women.
Does this mean you have no hope if your not a natural?
Of course not. You can learn how a natural thinks and behaves. Here at PUA Method we were hardly naturals growing up. I know I definitely wasn’t.
We became naturals through practice.
Go out, have fun. Learn to talk to women. You will naturally learn things on the way. A lot of these blindspots correct themselves. Also take a note of them. When you have laid that girl or had that interaction with whoever, you will learn and be able to see those spots which were once blind to you.
Now is the time.
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